Hungarian psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi suggests that boredom is what happens when one’s skills are greater than the challenge posed by an activity. In other words, people are most tuned-in when their skills are equally matched by the challenges they face.
Recently, I’ve been thinking about how Csikszentmihalyi’s theory extends to interpersonal relationships. How can people trigger feelings of boredom in one another? We decided to explore the subject over lunch last week and a handful of theories emerged: You feel bored when you don’t think you can learn anything new from another person. When you’re presented with repetitive information. When there are no controversial views addressed. When you’re speaking to someone who insists on having a one-way conversation and fails to pick up on non-verbal cues. Read more